Resurrection

Rebirth, renew, CHANGE, re-dedication. Though different, they remain similar in ideology. The idea that you come from one position, and do something different. Re-invent yourself. Most of the time, thoughts and ideas of change comes to us in times of need, or when we have hit rock bottom in our lives. From the loss of a job, a fallen idea, to loss of a relationship. We find strength in the prospect of changing for the better. Whatever our motivation is, as hard as it is, we like the idea of change and the promise of a better tomorrow that it brings.
What we don't understand is the difficulty of this change, and how through our own meditation and thorough research on our selves, can we reach this rebirth. A very unique southern town, you might know it by the name of New Orleans, used this as a moniker right after the devastation of Hurricane Katrina: RENew Orleans. Out of the flood waters the city rose up. Quite slowly might I add, but all the more appreciative of its beauty. I went just a month ago just to find a very different Bourbon Street. More restaurants, less 'gentlemen's clubs'. Shocked as I was, it meant a cleaner experience.
What does this have to do with a healthy relationship?? Whether it be with a child, a parent, friend, significant other, sibling, If we have to go through our own type of reinvention of ourselves, is that other person coming along for the ride? Is that other person supportive of you? Understanding what you have to do for yourself is an amazing first step, but understand what your support systems mean to you and how are they beneficial for your growth.  You don't want someone who will criticize your every step towards change, and you don't want someone there who doesn't want to help or understand the new you. If the couple dynamic has to change, that is an even more daunting task. You are asking not for just one person to change, but two people. Change for the individual may look different for each other and they are not on the same page. Can be a cause for difficulty. Priorities are a must. List them if you have to be structured for the change in your relationship, better to be prepared now rather than be stunned in the middle of making progress for change.  Outside of that, don't fear change, embrace the phoenix that you will become. I think I want to be a red one...