Resurrection

Rebirth, renew, CHANGE, re-dedication. Though different, they remain similar in ideology. The idea that you come from one position, and do something different. Re-invent yourself. Most of the time, thoughts and ideas of change comes to us in times of need, or when we have hit rock bottom in our lives. From the loss of a job, a fallen idea, to loss of a relationship. We find strength in the prospect of changing for the better. Whatever our motivation is, as hard as it is, we like the idea of change and the promise of a better tomorrow that it brings.
What we don't understand is the difficulty of this change, and how through our own meditation and thorough research on our selves, can we reach this rebirth. A very unique southern town, you might know it by the name of New Orleans, used this as a moniker right after the devastation of Hurricane Katrina: RENew Orleans. Out of the flood waters the city rose up. Quite slowly might I add, but all the more appreciative of its beauty. I went just a month ago just to find a very different Bourbon Street. More restaurants, less 'gentlemen's clubs'. Shocked as I was, it meant a cleaner experience.
What does this have to do with a healthy relationship?? Whether it be with a child, a parent, friend, significant other, sibling, If we have to go through our own type of reinvention of ourselves, is that other person coming along for the ride? Is that other person supportive of you? Understanding what you have to do for yourself is an amazing first step, but understand what your support systems mean to you and how are they beneficial for your growth.  You don't want someone who will criticize your every step towards change, and you don't want someone there who doesn't want to help or understand the new you. If the couple dynamic has to change, that is an even more daunting task. You are asking not for just one person to change, but two people. Change for the individual may look different for each other and they are not on the same page. Can be a cause for difficulty. Priorities are a must. List them if you have to be structured for the change in your relationship, better to be prepared now rather than be stunned in the middle of making progress for change.  Outside of that, don't fear change, embrace the phoenix that you will become. I think I want to be a red one...

Question:

WOMEN: What has happened to us that we have down graded the quality of standards that we hold our men to? Ever wondered? We may spend hours getting ready to go out to the club. Minutes shopping for the perfect short dress that goes with those strappy heels. Get hair done, nails done, errthang did and go out with our girls, lookin good either for our man or to snatch one. But a man rolls out of bed, may at least brush his teeth and throws on a what?? WHITE TEE??!?!? What the hell!! There is noo way that I'm going out getting dressed, then accepting drinks or dancing with a man looking like his night shirt swallowed him. WHEN oh WHEN has this become acceptable?? When have we allowed for me to not try to come at us correctly?? I mean, I understand the new age, feminism (I get mine and I approach men first if I want it) but at least let them be on your level. No offense, but if that is your sort of thing, then why put much effort into looking good. If you are coming at a ten, then he needs to come at a ten as well. Just saying. Small rant but think about it, Where are our Denzels? Where are our gentlemen or our GQ cover men? is it so wrong to have a metrosexual in the house? I agree, he shouldn't be in the mirror longer than you, but at least making an effort to look good for you.
Let me know what you think?..

L, is for the way your look at me....

Music is a universal language. One can find anything hidden in a few notes, or some lyrics. It covers mastering love, art, science, theology, psychology, and hell, even math (don't knock it until you try it). And you don't need a little wine or getting high to experience it. In fact, a song can express everything in our being that we are feeling at that moment. Why is it then, that the same thing, a word called COMMUNICATION, that does the same thing is so difficult for human beings to master? It's a thing we try  to accomplish on a daily basis but still we get caught in the fray of woven emotions that are so tightly wound in the stitch that it is too difficulty to get to the beginning of the thread.
The worst thing I think that can kill any type of relationship is the dreaded silence. It can be welcoming at times of meditation, when your terrible two stops for the first time that day declaring NO!! at everything that moves. But silence when there needs noise is terrible and detrimental to the being that one calls a 'relationship'. Clear your head, if need be, cool off the steam that is rising from your crown, frizzing up that beautiful mane of yours. But be sure that you can find the coping skills needed to feel comfortable enough that what you are saying to your beau won't be judged. There is a need people! a NEED for emotional security. That I am safe telling you my problems and that you can either listen to me and comfort me, respectfully tell me that I'm wrong if I am, but most importantly..that at the end of the day, you love me.
Music listens to our problems, without us actually speaking to it but it gives us that sense of empathy, that somebody in this world listens to us. And unfortunately, this is what breeds fanatics and those that will do anything to have Justin Beiber be their little lover...SOOOO glad I'm to old for that..

Intoducing...Nadi

WELL... Time flies. That's all I can really say. I began this blog about a year ago. But like a true southerner, I'm patient . Patient enough that in a year I've lived a little more and can truely add to this blog. What I'm hoping for is for the utmost southern class, that means that anything goes with a little girl chat around a bottle of wine... So as prissy as this blog looks, get ready, cause I'm a bit of sass as well. Feel free to ask a question dealing with your significant other, children, 'should I really go all Carrie Underwood on him' questions.. I might say yes and I might say no.  Check ya'll later..smooches**